Yes, I know. The title sounds preposterous. I was as angry as you when I saw this. I spotted it at Madame Noire. This article was written by a lady called LaShaun Williams. She started off with a sort of disclaimer that she’s married to a black man. “I am married to a Black man—dark-skinned, 100 percent cocoa.”However, she goes on to say, “To me, there is nothing more physically beautiful on this earth. Notice I said physically. Outside of that, there are plenty of more financially, intellectually and emotionally stable options.” Black men, specifically African-American men, should be highly offended by this generalization. Anyway, here are her 8 reasons:
1. They open wide instead of down low
Gay White men tend to be more forthcoming about their sexuality with family and friends. The down low phenomenon is less prevalent, which preserves the battery usage on your gaydar and relieves the stress of dissecting every male relationship. (And where did you get your research stats from?)
2. Not looking for someone to take care of them
Thanks to the absence of family, fathers and marriage in the Black community, a great number of our men have backward expectations when it comes to romantic relationships. A higher percentage of White men come from stronger family structures and more traditional gender roles, where the men seek to care for the women. (Gold digging much?)
3. Attend and graduate from college
Black women are graduating from college and Black men continue to drop out. As a result, degrees become intimidating when dating Black men. In White culture, education is valued and expected. Thus, White men have no problem dating educated women with advanced degrees. It is impressive rather than intimidating. (I beg to differ. Intimidation would come from low self esteem and personal issues with women, not from the color of your skin)
4. At least attempt to marry before making babies
For whatever reason, White men just don’t have children sprinkled all over the world like Black men. And, if they do, most of them were married to the mother at some point. Sure, they divorce but you can only divorce if you at least attempt a marriage. (This is such an ignorant comment, I won’t even address it.)
5. They don’t glamourize ignorance
They may listen to rap music, but they are smart enough not to act it out. The “thug life” is not something to be aspired. White men have a firmer grasp on what really defines manhood. (Wow. So all men who listen to rap music glamourize thug life?)
6. Financial planning and stability
Black people, especially men, are always trying to shine—often spending more money than they have. White men tend to be more educated in the area of finance with a greater understanding of retirement planning, savings, investments, etc. This is mostly due to a higher level of exposure and teaching, but all that matters is they know and make better decisions than Black men when it comes to managing money. (Sweetheart, the recession will get you whether you’re black or white.)
7. Have the ability to look beyond your past
Ever wonder why White people can date the friends of exes and so on? It’s because they don’t let the past hinder the present. Promiscuous Black men think they deserve to settle down with virgins, and allow past relationships to haunt the present. Not White men. They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife. (So hoes should look for white men? Please stop misleading women. All men have a problem with women with long histories. Ask a few.)
8. Don’t take everything as a challenge to their masculinity
Intimidation and insecurity are two reasons for the rift between Black men and women. As a result of their insecurities and low self-esteem, Black men are intimidated by the strength of an educated and ambitious Black woman. Rather than seeing her as a strong teammate, she is a threat to their manhood. Thus, they feel the need to overcompensate. White men, on the other hand, are more secure. What Black men see as threatening is what makes a great wife and business partner to them. (So now black men are insecure and have low self esteem. Hogwash!)
I can’t believe there’s a black man who has to wake up to this woman every day, knowing she considers white men as higher, more evolved human beings. Just sad. This post is for all my black African American pals I met in college or at work. They are mostly wonderful, intelligent people. But just like any society, you will get a few bad apples spoiling it for the rest of the bunch.
If you’re interested, some guy has written a rebuttal, 8 Reasons You Might Consider Dating a White Woman.
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